I only know a few people that consistently complain in real life as well as on social media regarding topics of pet care all the way to politics. Their level of complaining in-person is high and is fairly consistent with their level of complaining within social media platforms. In the years I have known them I have noted two discouraging behaviors:
- They continue to complain regardless of whether the problem they are complaining about is solved or not.
- They put forth very little or no effort towards a meaningful resolution to the problem they are complaining about.
These observations, over time, have left me with no patience when listening to or reading complaints from anyone about anything.
A constant barrage of complaints can make for a terribly negative atmosphere where nothing other than rage and impatience are accomplished. If you find yourself frustrated with complainers in your own life, look to science for solid suggestions on how to change your own behavior to better communicate with unproductive complainers. Science peeps have spent a lot of time studying humans and have really helpful suggestions on how to make things better (example: https://www.psychologytoday.com/blog/the-squeaky-wheel/201107/how-deal-chronic-complainers). As opposed to my method which is normally a snarky rebuttal like “you know, I have a feeling you would complain about winning the lottery” which often garners a shocked and hostile response of more complaining. Yes, I am the worst example of how to interact with other humans – this could explain why I don’t leave the house much:)